College Power & Control

College Power & Control

Coercion & Threats

  • Making and/or carrying out threats to hurt you
  • Threatening to transfer or leave school
  • Threatening to commit suicide
  • Making you do illegal activities
  • Forcing you to drink alcohol or use illicit drugs against your will

Emotional Abuse

  • Putting you down
  • Not letting you study or do assignments
  • Keeping you up all night before an exam
  • Calling you names
  • Making you feel guilty for things that are not your fault

Isolation

  • Deleting contacts from your phone/email
  • Keeping you from roommates, family, and friends
  • Stopping you from joining organizations or clubs
  • Encouraging you stay with him/her over breaks
  • Using jealousy to justify his/her actions

Intimidation

  • Making you afraid by using looks, actions, and gestures
  • Destroying your books, work, computer, etc.
  • Displaying weapons
  • Sharing plans to harm you/others, threatening pets/children

Minimizing, Denying, & Blaming

  • Blames you for the abuse ("if you wouldn't....I wouldn't hit you")
  • Denies abuse is taking place
  • Minimizes extent of abuse ("I don't hit you, that's real abuse, not yelling")

Using Technology

  • Demanding passwords to online accounts
  • Texting/calling you constantly
  • Monitoring your social network sites
  • Using tracking systems, GPS, and/or spyware to monitor your activity

Economic Abuse

  • Controlling how you spend your money
  • Having you pay his/her tuition, rent, etc.
  • Controlling your financial aid, personal income, flex, meal plans, CrimsonCash, etc.

Gender Privilege

  • Treating you like you are inferior or his/her subordinate
  • Making all the big decisions
  • Defining and requiring rigid gender roles